What are the best sex toys for couples?
“There is such a range of sex toys that it’s really about what you are interested in experiencing,” says Maria. “I often talk to couples about looking at a sex toy website together and talking about what they think they would like and not like to try. The reality is that, whatever you are trying, communication is going to be key. Adding a simple vibrator into the mix can add an element to massage and vibrators can be used to tease all over the body, and you can choose from clitoral vibrators, anal play vibrators, finger vibrators or bullet vibrators depending on your preference. There are lots of toys with Bluetooth remote controls, for men and women, such as Lelo’s Tiani, Ida or Lyla, which can add to the anticipation of putting your partner in charge of your pleasure.”
Might one have anything lying around the house that could double as a couple’s sex toy?
“You’re better to experiment with sex toys that are made from body-safe materials and designed for sexual play than to try to use something you can find at home,” advises Maria. “A great way to add in different elements you can find at home is by playing with the senses, using candles, changing lighting, having a bath or shower together, wearing different textures, such as something silky, or using an eye mask. You can also buy specifically designed massage candles, such as Lelo’s Flickering Touch Massage Candle, which are a great introduction to temperature play.”
What should you know before attempting pegging for the first time?
“Pegging is the term commonly used to describe a female partner using a wearable harness and a dildo for penetrative sex with a male partner,” says Maria. “The prostate is most easily stimulated when you are already aroused, so a warm-up or foreplay is an important part. Penetration of any kind requires sufficient arousal to be comfortable. Communication is key and should be clear – the top pegging partner doesn’t have the sensations of usual sex positions, as they are using a toy – so you need to be able to explicitly say if something is working or not working for you. Use a thicker-than-usual, pH-balanced, anal-use lubricant, which is organic and natural.”
What are the best sex toys for same-sex couples?
“A good vibrator,” says Maria. “They come in different sizes, from larger products such as a Smart Wand to smaller, handheld vibrators, which can be used for pleasure by all sexes and genders. Either or both partners can have one and can stimulate each other all over their bodies, teasing and creating anticipation, which is the best natural aphrodisiac that we have. It’s also worth being creative and thinking of the whole body as erogenous zones and exploring that idea with your partner by touching head to toe rather than just focusing on the areas of the body more commonly associated with sex.”