If you’re looking to hit the P-spot from home without particularly invasive penetration then it’s a prostate massager you’re after. The most popular of these come in skin-friendly silicone, vibrating to stimulate the prostate for a more intensely felt orgasm. For a braver, colder sensation, glass and metal are also available. More questions? We've called on a sex toy expert for a few pointers on what to look for before you buy
Is there actually such a thing as the P-spot?
“When we say the P-spot, what we mean is the prostate, a gland only found in men,” says Maria. “It plays a role in the reproduction process by secreting seminal fluids that protect sperm and the prostate muscles also help with ejaculation. When you are aroused, the prostate gland swells and many men report that direct or indirect pressure can increase pleasure and create more intense orgasms and even prostate orgasms.”
Why choose a prostate massager over a dildo?
“Prostate massagers are an anal toy designed to hit the spot, whereas dildos can be more multipurpose,” says Maria. “Most prostate massagers have a slight curve, which focuses specifically on stimulating the prostate and can make it easier to locate it, as well as a flared base for hands-free play. It’s also important to remember that not all sex toys are designed for anal play, so it's always best, if you are thinking about incorporating toys, that a prostate massager is designed with anal play in mind.”
Should I opt for a vibrating prostate massager?
“The vibrations can be used to stimulate the prostate either externally, through anal play as a perineum stimulator, or directly, by internal use,” says Maria. “Vibrating toys are a fairly reliable way of creating pleasurable experiences when it comes to sex toys and a high-quality water-based lube with silicone can create a soft and gliding sensation. Silicone is skin safe, nonporous and, importantly when it comes to anal play, easy to clean.”
What about a metal prostate massager?
“Many people describe enjoying the more weighted sensation of a metal massager, like those by brands such as Njoy, which can create a sense of pressure on the prostate,” says Maria. “Again, metal is nonporous and easy to clean, but it’s also more temperature responsive. It’s completely about personal preference in terms of what sensations or experience you are looking for.”